Some students who do very well till 7th std. lose their focus from 8th to 9th std. mainly because of their vulnerable age. We have to help them to manage this sensitive and emotional phase of their life. I give below the following tips for you:
1) Discourage Facebook account. If they have it, ensure that you are also there in the same page.
2) In this age students get into ‘infatuation’. Infatuation is “an intense but short-lived passion or admiration for someone or something”. This is the age where a boy or a girl may develop a short-lived passion or admiration with some of their friends. This is a natural phenomenon due to the emotional, biological and harmonial changes that are taking place during this age.
3) In the first place, you should have total trust on your children and at the same time carefully observe the emotional external responses. Spend adequate time with your children showing genuine love and affection.
4) Completely ban and discourage students listening to cinema songs and FM radio. Research says that we become what we listen to. In the recent past, cinema songs do not help development of healthy mind set. Cinema songs encourage infatuation as discussed earlier.
5) Do not encourage cell phones. Children are not mature enough to use it properly. They misuse the various apps such as What’s up.
6) Ensure that they manage their available time constructively; they reach home within 30 minutes after the classes are over; they do not waste their available time on chatting with friends either over telephone or in person. Ensure that they do not receive any telephone calls from their friends after school hours. They have spent enough time in the school and there is no reason for them to receive friends in person or over telephone.
7) Please ensure that at the 8th std level, your ward spends a minimum of 4 hours of study time and at the 9th std level, minimum of 5 hours of study after doing the homework. This alone will ensure their getting high marks in their exam.
8) We do not encourage Laptop at this age. If you have a Laptop or a Computer with broad band connection, it should be in the main hall with the common access, both for the parents as well as the children.
9) Encourage your ward to join extra-curricular activities like Sports, Music, Debate, Quiz, Public Speaking etc. This will ensure that they are mentally engaged on intellectual activities. If it is not done, they will naturally divert their attention on unnecessary activities spoiling their mind.
I am writing their letter, so that you are informed on how to deal with your children.
NC Sridharan
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