Without feelings of respect, what is there to distinguish men from beasts?
Confucius
After seeing my blog on ‘emotional paralysis’, someone wanted to know the external symptoms of a person who suffers from emotional paralysis. Just like a bodily paralysis, you can notice some external behaviours in a person suffering from emotional paralysis.
Some examples:
• A person keeps his radio volume very high regardless of peoples’ irritation
• A person goes on boasting about himself without being sensitive that others do not like it
• A person does not fulfill the reasonable and just expectations of people whom he is obliged to satisfy
• A person does not switch off his cell phone which keeps interrupting the meeting in progress
• A uses harsh and insulting words to people while communicating
• A person parks his car in front of a gate of a house even though there is a placard not to do so
• A person unnecessarily blows his car horn in a ‘no horn’ zone
• A person indulges in some irritating behaviours such a burping, exploring ears, picking teeth etc regardless of others’ presence
The list can be endless and you can notice such behaviours all around you. And, who knows you may also be doing the same!
N C Sridharan
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Feelings or emotions are the universal language and are to be honored. They are the authentic expression of who you are at your deepest place’
Judith Wright
Paralysis is a medical condition in which one or more of the muscles fail to function. There will be no feeling in that area. If you are having a paralysis of your leg, you will not be able to move your leg. Research findings indicate that one in fifty people suffer from this.
I wonder how many people suffer from ‘emotional paralysis’! What I mean by ‘emotional paralysis’ is a mental condition when you are not able emotionally respond to feelings – either your own or others!
People who are emotionally paralised will not be moved by basic feelings such as happiness, excitement, anger, irritation etc. They cannot also enjoy their own
positive feelings. When people around them experience such feelings, they will be totally numb to those.
When someone feels angry or irritated by something we did, the least thing we can do is to notice become sensitive about it. May be we are right and the other person is not fair. Even then we should respect his sentiments and feelings.
We will immediately notice bodily paralysis and seek medical intervention. But we may not even be aware of mental paralysis and the treatment will also be very difficult!
Do not become emotionally crippled and handicapped!
N C Sridharan
www.thetimefoundation.com
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